Romantic Love

Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Wed Feb 01, 2006 6:33 am

How do you define romantic love? What behavior does it entail? Specifically I'm looking to find out your idealized notion of love (i.e. what you view as most desirable that may be achievable). This is a carry over topic from the "Sweetest Thing Ever" thread in the Anything Goes forum.

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VictorEM83 · Post by **VictorEM83** » Thu Feb 02, 2006 1:32 am

See that is the issue as I look to the past the things I would describe as love were more lust, she was hot, we had similar interests but where different. So it worked for a while but it wasnt a connection that was gonna last.

Now Im not sure what I'd define love as. I mean there has to be a physical or emotional attraction but there has to be something deeper that that too. You have to be able to make each other be better than you are alone. Its like some girls when I date them they hold me back from what I want to do then I have to make a call, is what I want more important than a person and their feelings?

Thus why Im single right now Im really debating going into a career doing photography all over the place so for me I cant start something when there is a chance I wont be able to go thru with it and limit my goals in life because I may find "the girl" who may not be anything more than a temporary girlfriend.

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Bookworm · Post by **Bookworm** » Thu Feb 02, 2006 10:31 pm

Well, I love my wife, but I don't consider myself a very romantic person. I don't always think of doing the things for her that would make her eyes light up. I am completely commited to her and she knows that there is no chance whatsoever that I would ever leave her, but that commitment and dedication does not always translate into romance. I have a book called The Five Love Languages and it describes 5 ways of showing love to someone and if you are showing love in one language, and your partner is waiting to hear a different language, then you need to figure out your partner's language in order for them to feel loved. Some people feel loved when the receive little gifts, don't have to be expensive because it is the thought that counts, but they just love the little tokens of affection. Others would rather just spend time with the person they love. Others feel love when the love is verbally communicated. Others feel most loved when they get a touch on the arm or an arm around the waist. There's one more, but I can't think of it just sitting in front of the computer here.

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Sun Feb 05, 2006 3:23 pm

Well, the only reason I specified 'romantic love' was to avoid discussion of platonic/fraternal love, or love of children, siblings, humanity, panda bears, etc.

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andthebeast13 · Post by **andthebeast13** » Fri Mar 17, 2006 2:41 am

Bookworm wrote: Well, I love my wife, but I don't consider myself a very romantic person. I don't always think of doing the things for her that would make her eyes light up. I am completely commited to her and she knows that there is no chance whatsoever that I would ever leave her, but that commitment and dedication does not always translate into romance. I have a book called The Five Love Languages and it describes 5 ways of showing love to someone and if you are showing love in one language, and your partner is waiting to hear a different language, then you need to figure out your partner's language in order for them to feel loved. Some people feel loved when the receive little gifts, don't have to be expensive because it is the thought that counts, but they just love the little tokens of affection. Others would rather just spend time with the person they love. Others feel love when the love is verbally communicated. Others feel most loved when they get a touch on the arm or an arm around the waist. There's one more, but I can't think of it just sitting in front of the computer here.

i believe you left out "acts of service"
doing something for the person you love that is not expected or required

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fragged one · Post by **fragged one** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 3:46 am

flicking like nothing else

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FloodG8-9595 · Post by **FloodG8-9595** » Tue Sep 05, 2006 11:25 am

fragged one wrote: flicking like nothing else

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Minnie · Post by **Minnie** » Tue Sep 05, 2006 3:24 pm

what you talking about Willis?

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 3:32 am

fragged one wrote: flicking like nothing else

AHAHAHAHAHAH

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 3:38 am

Stasi wrote: Specifically I'm looking to find out your idealized notion of love (i.e. what you view as most desirable that may be achievable).

seriously, My girlfriend and I agree. Staying home on new years eve and doing nothing but spending time with each other. Perhaps it is too simple. Of course the idea of simply being together is what we want to achive.

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Minnie · Post by **Minnie** » Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:26 pm

scherzo wrote:
fragged one wrote: flicking like nothing else

AHAHAHAHAHAH

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Wed Sep 27, 2006 5:11 pm

hey didn't realize you two were a 'thing' - even if you are. I only reciently read that 'fragged' was up in MN and the two of you were getting together on your birthday.

curious, if it is true there are 3 maybe 4 from MN, do you guys all know ea. other?

i do realize bookworm and clueless are related.

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Bookworm · Post by **Bookworm** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 1:31 am

scherzo wrote: hey didn't realize you two were a 'thing' - even if you are. I only reciently read that 'fragged' was up in MN and the two of you were getting together on your birthday.

curious, if it is true there are 3 maybe 4 from MN, do you guys all know ea. other?

i do realize bookworm and clueless are related.

I don't know anyone here in real life except for my family members who have joined. There's my kids Clueless, wastingtime27, and Dragon13, and my wife, Crazy Amazon Lady.

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Clueless · Post by **Clueless** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 10:02 am

its cuz mn is the coolest place to be

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 11:55 am

Well for the people from MN. It certainly is a small world afterall

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Minnie · Post by **Minnie** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 12:30 pm

No problem, fragged and I are married. We both live in Austin Texas, he is gone to MN right now on a business trip.

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Clueless · Post by **Clueless** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 4:08 pm

psh, business trip my foot. i bet he's hanging out at the mall of america right now, or on a rollercoaster at vallyfair.

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Minnie · Post by **Minnie** » Sun Oct 01, 2006 4:03 pm

Clueless wrote: psh, business trip my foot. i bet he's hanging out at the mall of america right now, or on a rollercoaster at vallyfair.

your probably right....

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Clueless · Post by **Clueless** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 4:37 pm

that would be hilarious of he was

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 5:27 am

Oooooh, yet another thread bites the dust!

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 11:04 am

before it dies you could give us your opinion of romantic love?

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Wed Oct 04, 2006 6:55 am

Hmmm, thought I had given my own opinion. In my own idealized notion of romantic love...

Both people are faithful to one another, not because they're afraid of going to hell for committing adultery, or the financial burden of a divorce, but because they respect each other and have no desire to betray.

Both people are friends - perhaps not in that they share all the same interests and tastes, but rather there is always a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, and a deep concern for the others' well being.

Both can say sweet things to the other and mean them wholeheartedly.

I'm sure I can go on, but I'll stop there for now. I think you get the idea, anyhow.

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momentum · Post by **momentum** » Fri Oct 06, 2006 6:53 am

to me there should be total faith and understanding and that person should be able to be your friend and mate.there must be smooth communication and display of affection-all should be spontaneous and not forced. you must feel the need to hug from within and not do it like a duty coz you have to!
if you are a guy, then you should see through her tears and pain. she will always be there for you if you know how to keep her with you. and she will take care of you like noone could ever do!

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Thu Oct 12, 2006 9:54 pm

Stasi wrote: Hmmm, thought I had given my own opinion. In my own idealized notion of romantic love...

Both people are faithful to one another, not because they're afraid of going to hell for committing adultery, or the financial burden of a divorce, but because they respect each other and have no desire to betray.

Both people are friends - perhaps not in that they share all the same interests and tastes, but rather there is always a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, and a deep concern for the others' well being.

Both can say sweet things to the other and mean them wholeheartedly.

I'm sure I can go on, but I'll stop there for now. I think you get the idea, anyhow.

you sound exactly like my girlfriend. very well put Stasi

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Bookworm · Post by **Bookworm** » Fri Oct 13, 2006 8:44 pm

scherzo wrote: you sound exactly like my girlfriend. very well put Stasi

I'm sure he will be overjoyed to hear you say that.

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