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Well, a long long time ago I made a post regarding that I was having a Japanese exchange student staying in my house. Well.. over the past two monthes we have fell for each other. We have done everything and anything we enjoy having each other very, very much. Well, my parents arouse to suspiscion and I always discredited it. Well eventually i got sick and tired of it, and I decided to tell my dad first, he was very understanding about it.. He said are you being responsible and safe, and I remarked with "yes" I am doing everything I can to be safe and responsible as is She. Well my mother took it a different way, she is the parent that I have mika stay with. She is thinking that is more beneficial to seperate the two of us , and terminate the relationship entirely. Or I can spend all my time at my fathers house and see mika in supervised minimal time frames... Now I feel very very very depressed, and I know a lot of people such as my father and friends don't agree with this. All I really want is to be safe , responsible, and caring with my girlfriend and continue to live in the same house and have some privacy. I mean honestly this is abosolutely tearing me apart inside. I wish my mother was more understanding about this and talk to me about it, instead of doing what she thinks is "right to her". I have had sex with this girl and we have been very responsible, birth control and condoms , so the chances are close to none. We do have the money to buy MifePrex(Abortion pill). Mika said that she would want a abortion and not a baby, I let her decide if the problem occurs. I want to hear what you guys think I really really do, I mean suicide has been in the back of my head for the past three days, and I hope I can push through this.

I have never felt this way towards a women like Mika in my entire life....


Your friend,
Sam.


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If thoughts of suicide are in your head because of having to follow your mother's decisions, then perhaps there is a lack of maturity on your part that your mother sees and you do not. After all, you are having an intense relationship with a FOREIGN EXCHANGE STUDENT, so when the student has to go back to her home country, there are sure to be emotional difficulties for you anyway. Your mom must want to keep those difficulties to a minimum. Also, by having a foreign student in her home, your mother has responsibilities not just to the student, but also to the student's parents. Do the girl's parents approve of the sexual relationship between the two of you? Do they even know about it? If they don't approve, is it possible they may blame your mother for allowing the situation to happen in her home? If a pregnancy happens (and condoms do not provide a zero per cent chance of that happening), what would be her parent's response? They may wish to counsel her regarding other options besides abortion. They may take her home immediately. By having sex with the girl, you are jeopardizing the very friendship that you want to develop. I say to just cool it. You are lucky your mom is giving you the option of staying with your dad and still seeing Mika from time to time. If the relationship is meant to be, it will last and grow stronger without the sex.

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You mention suicide, how much have you thought this through? How would you do it? would you write a note? have you told anyone else?

suicide is something that must be taken seriously, and never dismissed. Suicide issue must be delt with first before your 'exchange student' delmea. Regardless of the outcome between you and the student you absolutley must have control over your suicidal thoughts.



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I bet shes sweet, but dont kill yourself over her for...
1) the effect on her
2) the effect on ur family annnnd
3) the effect of you not enjoying love anymore.

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