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Romantic Love
Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 6:33 am
by Stasi
How do you define romantic love? What behavior does it entail? Specifically I'm looking to find out your idealized notion of love (i.e. what you view as most desirable that may be achievable). This is a carry over topic from the
"Sweetest Thing Ever" thread in the Anything Goes forum.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 1:32 am
by VictorEM83
See that is the issue as I look to the past the things I would describe as love were more lust, she was hot, we had similar interests but where different. So it worked for a while but it wasnt a connection that was gonna last.
Now Im not sure what I'd define love as. I mean there has to be a physical or emotional attraction but there has to be something deeper that that too. You have to be able to make each other be better than you are alone. Its like some girls when I date them they hold me back from what I want to do then I have to make a call, is what I want more important than a person and their feelings?
Thus why Im single right now Im really debating going into a career doing photography all over the place so for me I cant start something when there is a chance I wont be able to go thru with it and limit my goals in life because I may find "the girl" who may not be anything more than a temporary girlfriend.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 10:31 pm
by Bookworm
Well, I love my wife, but I don't consider myself a very romantic person. I don't always think of doing the things for her that would make her eyes light up. I am completely commited to her and she knows that there is no chance whatsoever that I would ever leave her, but that commitment and dedication does not always translate into romance. I have a book called The Five Love Languages and it describes 5 ways of showing love to someone and if you are showing love in one language, and your partner is waiting to hear a different language, then you need to figure out your partner's language in order for them to feel loved. Some people feel loved when the receive little gifts, don't have to be expensive because it is the thought that counts, but they just love the little tokens of affection. Others would rather just spend time with the person they love. Others feel love when the love is verbally communicated. Others feel most loved when they get a touch on the arm or an arm around the waist. There's one more, but I can't think of it just sitting in front of the computer here.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Sun Feb 05, 2006 3:23 pm
by Stasi
Well, the only reason I specified 'romantic love' was to avoid discussion of platonic/fraternal love, or love of children, siblings, humanity, panda bears, etc.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Fri Mar 17, 2006 2:41 am
by andthebeast13
Bookworm wrote: Well, I love my wife, but I don't consider myself a very romantic person. I don't always think of doing the things for her that would make her eyes light up. I am completely commited to her and she knows that there is no chance whatsoever that I would ever leave her, but that commitment and dedication does not always translate into romance. I have a book called The Five Love Languages and it describes 5 ways of showing love to someone and if you are showing love in one language, and your partner is waiting to hear a different language, then you need to figure out your partner's language in order for them to feel loved. Some people feel loved when the receive little gifts, don't have to be expensive because it is the thought that counts, but they just love the little tokens of affection. Others would rather just spend time with the person they love. Others feel love when the love is verbally communicated. Others feel most loved when they get a touch on the arm or an arm around the waist. There's one more, but I can't think of it just sitting in front of the computer here.
i believe you left out "acts of service"
doing something for the person you love that is not expected or required
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Romantic Love
Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 3:46 am
by fragged one
flicking like nothing else
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Romantic Love
Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 11:25 am
by FloodG8-9595
fragged one wrote: flicking like nothing else
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Romantic Love
Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 3:24 pm
by Minnie
what you talking about Willis?
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Romantic Love
Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 3:32 am
by scherzo
fragged one wrote: flicking like nothing else
AHAHAHAHAHAH
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Romantic Love
Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 3:38 am
by scherzo
Stasi wrote: Specifically I'm looking to find out your idealized notion of love (i.e. what you view as most desirable that may be achievable).
seriously, My girlfriend and I agree. Staying home on new years eve and doing nothing but spending time with each other. Perhaps it is too simple. Of course the idea of simply being together is what we want to achive.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:26 pm
by Minnie
scherzo wrote: fragged one wrote: flicking like nothing else
AHAHAHAHAHAH
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Romantic Love
Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 5:11 pm
by scherzo
hey didn't realize you two were a 'thing' - even if you are. I only reciently read that 'fragged' was up in MN and the two of you were getting together on your birthday.
curious, if it is true there are 3 maybe 4 from MN, do you guys all know ea. other?
i do realize bookworm and clueless are related.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 1:31 am
by Bookworm
scherzo wrote: hey didn't realize you two were a 'thing' - even if you are. I only reciently read that 'fragged' was up in MN and the two of you were getting together on your birthday.
curious, if it is true there are 3 maybe 4 from MN, do you guys all know ea. other?
i do realize bookworm and clueless are related.
I don't know anyone here in real life except for my family members who have joined. There's my kids Clueless, wastingtime27, and Dragon13, and my wife, Crazy Amazon Lady.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 10:02 am
by Clueless
its cuz mn is the coolest place to be
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 11:55 am
by scherzo
Well for the people from MN. It certainly is a small world afterall
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 12:30 pm
by Minnie
No problem, fragged and I are married. We both live in Austin Texas, he is gone to MN right now on a business trip.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 4:08 pm
by Clueless
psh, business trip my foot. i bet he's hanging out at the mall of america right now, or on a rollercoaster at vallyfair.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 4:03 pm
by Minnie
Clueless wrote: psh, business trip my foot. i bet he's hanging out at the mall of america right now, or on a rollercoaster at vallyfair.
your probably right....
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Romantic Love
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 4:37 pm
by Clueless
that would be hilarious of he was
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Romantic Love
Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 5:27 am
by Stasi
Oooooh, yet another thread bites the dust!
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Romantic Love
Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 11:04 am
by scherzo
before it dies you could give us your opinion of romantic love?
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Romantic Love
Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2006 6:55 am
by Stasi
Hmmm, thought I had given my own opinion. In my own idealized notion of romantic love...
Both people are faithful to one another, not because they're afraid of going to hell for committing adultery, or the financial burden of a divorce, but because they respect each other and have no desire to betray.
Both people are friends - perhaps not in that they share all the same interests and tastes, but rather there is always a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, and a deep concern for the others' well being.
Both can say sweet things to the other and mean them wholeheartedly.
I'm sure I can go on, but I'll stop there for now. I think you get the idea, anyhow.
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Romantic Love
Posted: Fri Oct 06, 2006 6:53 am
by momentum
to me there should be total faith and understanding and that person should be able to be your friend and mate.there must be smooth communication and display of affection-all should be spontaneous and not forced. you must feel the need to hug from within and not do it like a duty coz you have to!
if you are a guy, then you should see through her tears and pain. she will always be there for you if you know how to keep her with you. and she will take care of you like noone could ever do!
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Romantic Love
Posted: Thu Oct 12, 2006 9:54 pm
by scherzo
Stasi wrote: Hmmm, thought I had given my own opinion. In my own idealized notion of romantic love...
Both people are faithful to one another, not because they're afraid of going to hell for committing adultery, or the financial burden of a divorce, but because they respect each other and have no desire to betray.
Both people are friends - perhaps not in that they share all the same interests and tastes, but rather there is always a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, and a deep concern for the others' well being.
Both can say sweet things to the other and mean them wholeheartedly.
I'm sure I can go on, but I'll stop there for now. I think you get the idea, anyhow.
you sound exactly like my girlfriend. very well put Stasi
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Romantic Love
Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 8:44 pm
by Bookworm
scherzo wrote: you sound exactly like my girlfriend. very well put Stasi
I'm sure he will be overjoyed to hear you say that.
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